I logged on to my Facebook today to find ANOTHER one of my friends relationship status changed to “Engaged”. I think this brings the total to 13 or 14 people from college alone. I’m sure about 90% of my friends from high school are all married and having children.
What’s the big rush?
I do get it. You fall in love with someone and want to spend the rest of your life with them. Perfect, great, fantastic! I’m in that situation now. I’m pretty sure that Johnny and I will be together until the end of time.
But honestly, it was one of the biggest things that spurred my quarterlife crisis. All of my friends were getting married, starting careers and having adorable children. I started getting family Christmas cards from friends in high school. The “engaged” status was showing up more frequently. I thought that it was something I was supposed to be doing too. Johnny always told me we were way too young to be thinking of “stuff like that”. It made me upset. I wanted to be one of the cool, married kids like all the rest of my friends.
I’ve learned that marriage is not what I want at at this point in my life. The whole marriage thing to me is more about fitting in, wanting to be a part of the “married” club with the rest of my friends. I’ve realized that marriage is something that will come when Johnny and I are both ready for it to happen, even if it is 10 years from now. There’s a quote that’s something along the lines of “All of my friends are getting married, and I’m getting drunk!”. While the getting drunk part is very true ( ), Johnny and I have also made the decision to do the unconventional and go to Thailand.
This decision, while not typical, is the best one for Johnny and I right now. We both have been starving for something more than the life path most people choose to take. He and I get more excited everyday!
There is nothing wrong with being married. And of course I know married couples travel all the time and they aren’t all tied down to their jobs. I just feel that 24 for me is WAY too young to do things like pay bills together and be a Mrs. So and So. The Sagittarius in me is pretty selfish and is not willing to share everything just yet. Just thinking about it makes me anxious! I always think about it this way: Once you get married, you and your husband begin a new life together. You share everything. Mommy and Daddy aren’t legally responsible for you anymore. If I was married, and heaven forbid, I got into a car accident and ended up in a coma, my husband would be the one to make the decision to take me off life support. WHAT?! That’s a pretty scary thought for me. Not to mention divorce is expensive as hell. If and when I ever get married, it’s for life baby!
Besides, I’m not ashamed to admit I still have a few years of partying still left in me. I need to get it all out of my system before I even think about a ring and bearing a child.
Thai whiskey anyone?!